I met Jules (Julia) on my 1st night a Highview Manor in 2000. She was this shy girl who smiled really quick and somehow that night I got her to giggle. I liked her instantly. At the drop of a hat instantly. We became best friend and then Jan & Jules. We’ve always been JUST Jan and Jules. The girls next door. The shy one and the loud mouth (You can all figure out who is who, right?). Overall, everyone has been supportive, I think sometimes seeing people happy together allows people to just see it’s not about gender, but just about one thing: love.
Lots of things have happened since we’ve been together, we’ve become Ma Tante’s (Aunts) together, we’ve laughed, cried, held each other’s hands when the other is sick, we argued (rarely, but it happens), we’ve struggled, we’ve talked, we’ve held each other close, we’ve supported each other not matter what, we’ve kept those lines of communication open at all times and we have loved.
We’ve grown together and not apart. We allow each other to be ourselves. The good. The bad. The not so cute. We take in sickness and in health seriously. We listen. We are honest. We have a wonderfully supportive family, on both sides and friends who have never treated us like anything less than a true couple. We’re “The Girls”.
We’ve both said we’d have gotten married the moment we moved in together. On our 1st Christmas together we go titanium rings with eternity knots and the Kanji symbols for Soul Mate inscribed on them. We wore them on our right hands, since we couldn’t get married. That WAS our wedding rings. We have been married in our hearts for almost 10 years. Today, we took off the right handed rings and put on the real wedding rings. Blessed, legal, and true. While The Fed Government doesn’t yet say it’s legal, our great state of Maine, says it is legal.
Being a same sex couple isn’t easy. You field the oddest of questions. And offers (sperm anyone? that will always be the funniest one). You get odd looks sometimes if you are holding hands. Get asked if you want separate checks. People assume you just haven’t found the “right” guy. But it’s real and we are here to stay.
So, today I became a Cyr. And Julia gained a legal wife and visa versa. Marriage is a big commitment, but we have been married for a long time, now it’s legal. So, on with the love and the laughter, and thank you all for your support.
Jan and Jules